Finding the Belief that holds you back

There are a number of ideas for playing around with Beliefs in the free ebook available from this website, sometimes though we don’t know what the Belief is that is holding us back…….

Now, another way to look at Beliefs is to look at an area of life where we are not taking the actions we would like to take, or feeling the way we’d like to feel in certain situations, and check in with ourselves and see what Belief might be holding us back.

For example, let’s say I didn’t like talking to Strangers, but I don’t know what the exact belief is holding me back. What I can do to find out the belief that is likely to be holding me back is to ask myself this question:

In order to feel like this or act like this in this situation what must I believe about myself, about others and the world in general?

You’ll be surprised how new ideas and thoughts can spring to mind when you ask better questions of yourself……too often we say “Why can’t I do this?” and answer ourselves in a way that is not very helpful….

So apply this method to anything you want to work on, or what would be even better is to notice over the next little while any bad emotions you get or feelings, or anything you hold back from doing and simply say to yourself:

“In order to feel like this or act like this in this situation what must I believe about myself, about others and the world in general?”

One of the things I’d really like you to do is become more aware of when fears come up or negative emotions, perhaps it’s even when you get annoyed if something is not going your way. Notice these times and ask yourself the above question.

Often we are all too familiar with our day to day emotions that although we feel them, we just accept them, they have always been there. If we take time to notice them and pay attention to them, and ask ourselves the above question, then we become more aware of how we work. Once you know how something works it is so much easier to improve it.

Mark Rhodes

Is living in your comfort zone really working for you?

We often find ourselves saying we feel comfortable about a situation or something in our lives, and sometimes we feel uncomfortable. The difference of course is the things that are inside or outside our comfort zone.

It’s not about getting outside your comfort zone it’s about expanding it.

Some people say that they are happiest inside their comfort zone and therefore design their life and ambitions to not cause them to need to expand or get outside their comfort zones.

This is fine unless of course you hit a problem when you ask yourself this simple question:

“Is living inside my comfort zone giving me the results, the passion, the fun and the excitement I REALLY desire in life?”

If not you need to accept that for things to change, you need to change and part of that could well involve expanding your comfort zone. It’s natural, we all have comfort zones, they are just at different places. If you are not pushing your comfort zone you are not growing as a human being.

Think about what small thing could you do differently this week to what you would normally do, something that will just push your comfort zone a little, where you don’t risk a lot but look back with pride and say “I wouldn’t have done that before”

Perhaps its as simple as making a call when usually you’d send an email “because if felt easier”, maybe it is saying “Good Morning” to someone you pass in a store or see at a bus stop.

The outcome of any of these type of things doesn’t really matter, regardles of outcome you have made progress and expanded your comfort zone by doing something you wouldn’t normally do.

I usually expand my comfort zone by thinking how great it will be when the thing in question is done or over, or I give myself some reward, no matter how small, if I do that thing that feels uncomfortable.

Play with it, and have fun. When you feel that comfort zone feeling come in, get curious, ask yourself “What must I believe about me, the situation or others in order to feel like this?”

Then apply the questions and tasks in the free ebook available on the website.